Wednesday, October 3, 2012

Daddies and Daughters

I am blessed that my dad did/was/is all these things and my daughter has a daddy that is doing all these things as well.


1. Love her mom. Treat her mother with respect, honor, and a big heaping spoonful of public displays of affection. When she grows up, the odds are good she’ll fall in love with and marry someone who treats her much like you treated her mother. Good or bad, that’s just the way it is. I’d prefer good.

2. Always be there. Quality time doesn’t happen without quantity time. Hang out together for no other reason than just to be in each other’s presence. Be genuinely interested in the things that interest her. She needs her dad to be involved in her life at every stage. Don’t just sit idly by while she add years to her… add life to her years.

3. Save the day. She’ll grow up looking for a hero. It might as well be you. She’ll need you to come through for her over and over again throughout her life. Rise to the occasion. Red cape and blue tights optional.

4. Savor every moment you have together. Today she’s crawling around the house in diapers, tomorrow you’re handing her the keys to the car, and before you know it, you’re walking her down the aisle. Some day soon, hanging out with her old man won’t be the bees knees anymore. Life happens pretty fast. You better cherish it while you can.

5. Pray for her. Regularly. Passionately. Continually.

6. Buy her a glove and teach her to throw a baseball. Make her proud to throw like a girl… a girl with a wicked slider.

7. She will fight with her mother. Choose sides wisely.

8. Go ahead. Buy her those pearls.

9. Of course you look silly playing peek-a-boo. You should play anyway.

10. Enjoy the wonder of bath time.

11. There will come a day when she asks for a puppy. Don’t over think it. At least one time in her life, just say, “Yes.”

12. It’s never too early to start teaching her about money. She will still probably suck you dry as a teenager… and on her wedding day.

13. Make pancakes in the shape of her age for breakfast on her birthday. In a pinch, donuts with pink sprinkles and a candle will suffice.

14. Buy her a pair of Chucks as soon as she starts walking. She won’t always want to wear matching shoes with her old man.


Photo Credit :: Danielle Rocke Toews
15. Dance with her. Start when she’s a little girl or even when she’s a baby. Don’t wait ‘til her wedding day.

16. Take her fishing. She will probably squirm more than the worm on your hook. That’s OK.

17. Learn to say no. She may pitch a fit today, but someday you’ll both be glad you stuck to your guns.

18. Tell her she’s beautiful. Say it over and over again. Someday an animated movie or “beauty” magazine will try to convince her otherwise.

19. Teach her to change a flat. A tire without air need not be a major panic inducing event in her life. She’ll still call you crying the first time it happens.

20. Take her camping. Immerse her in the great outdoors. Watch her eyes fill with wonder the first time she sees the beauty of wide open spaces. Leave the iPod at home.

21. Let her hold the wheel. She will always remember when daddy let her drive.

22. She’s as smart as any boy. Make sure she knows that.

23. When she learns to give kisses, she will want to plant them all over your face. Encourage this practice.

24. Knowing how to eat sunflower seeds correctly will not help her get into a good college. Teach her anyway.

25. Letting her ride on your shoulders is pure magic. Do it now while you have a strong back and she’s still tiny.

26. It is in her nature to make music. It’s up to you to introduce her to the joy of socks on a wooden floor.

27. If there’s a splash park near your home, take her there often. She will be drawn to the water like a duck to a puddle.

28. She will eagerly await your return home from work in the evenings. Don’t be late.

29. If her mom enrolls her in swim lessons, make sure you get in the pool too. Don’t be intimidated if there are no other dads there. It’s their loss.

30. Never miss her birthday. In ten years she won’t remember the present you gave her. She will remember if you weren’t there.

31. Teach her to roller skate. Watch her confidence soar.

32. Let her roll around in the grass. It’s good for her soul. It’s not bad for yours either.

33. Take her swimsuit shopping. Don’t be afraid to veto some of her choices, but resist the urge to buy her full-body beach pajamas.

34. Somewhere between the time she turns three and her sixth birthday, the odds are good that she will ask you to marry her. Let her down gently.

35. She’ll probably want to crawl in bed with you after a nightmare. This is a good thing.

36. Few things in life are more comforting to a crying little girl than her father’s hand. Never forget this.

37. Introduce her to the swings at your local park. She’ll squeal for you to push her higher and faster. Her definition of “higher and faster” is probably not the same as yours. Keep that in mind.

38. When she’s a bit older, your definition of higher and faster will be a lot closer to hers. When that day comes, go ahead… give it all you’ve got.

39. Holding her upside down by the legs while she giggles and screams uncontrollably is great for your biceps. WARNING: She has no concept of muscle fatigue.

40. She might ask you to buy her a pony on her birthday. Unless you live on a farm, do not buy her a pony on her birthday. It’s OK to rent one though.

41. Take it easy on the presents for her birthday and Christmas. Instead, give her the gift of experiences you can share together.

42. Let her know she can always come home. No matter what.

43. Remember, just like a butterfly, she too will spread her wings and fly some day. Enjoy her caterpillar years.

44. Write her a handwritten letter every year on her birthday. Give them to her when she goes off to college, becomes a mother herself, or when you think she needs them most.

45. Learn to trust her. Gradually give her more freedom as she gets older. She will rise to the expectations you set for her.

46. When in doubt, trust your heart. She already does.

47. When your teenage daughter is upset, learning when to engage and when to back off will add years to YOUR life. If you succeed in doing this, tell me how.

48. Ice cream covers over a multitude of sins. Know her favorite flavor.

49. This day is coming soon. There’s nothing you can do to be ready for it. The sooner you accept this fact, the easier it will be.

50. Today she’s walking down the driveway to get on the school bus. Tomorrow she’s going off to college. Don’t blink.

Thursday, September 27, 2012

Summer Softball 2012

Since I'm already so behind on my blog I thought I would back track to summer and hopefully get caught back up at some point. My blog has been neglected only because I've just been too lazy to get caught up. Sorry. I'll work on that.

This year Madelyn moved up to kid pitch softball. We had been warned that it would be a very long season while new pitchers learn to pitch. But I thought the season really went well and smoother than I had expected. Softball was one of my fav sports to play and also happens to be one of my fav sports to watch Madelyn play so maybe that had something to do with it.

Madelyn played short stop for a majority of the season, tried her hand arm at pitching and decided it wasn't for her, and also played catcher a few games. She said her favorite position is catcher because that is where all the action is. She has a point. Her fielding and batting improved much this year and I just love watching her play. It just happens to be one of her favorite sports to play and that makes this mama very proud. Now if only I could convince her that volleyball is great too.


 Hey Batter! Batter!
Serious about playing short stop.

The umpire also babysits Madelyn sometimes and she was giving Madelyn pointers on being a good catcher.

Sunday, August 19, 2012

Fourth Grader

Madelyn  started fourth grade last Tuesday. It is still hard to wrap my mind around the fact that I have a fourth grader. She was excited to go back to see her friends but not so thrilled that summer was over. As I was taking her picture in front of our house she asked if I would please not take any pics in front of the school like I normally do. I kindly explained no chance as I will be following her to school and taking her picture even when she is a senior in high school. So needless to say she was less than thrilled to have her picture taken in front of the school and even less thrilled that I followed her into the school and took her pictures as she sat next to her friends in the gym waiting for school to start. I guess I have become the uncool mom and I now embarrass her. Isn't that my job?

 In front of our new house. :)
In front of Lincoln Elementary

Chasing her down the school hall.

"mom, are you still following me?" 

Friday, July 20, 2012

Adventure Time

One Saturday afternoon Madelyn and I decided to take an adventure at the ElDorado lake. We packed a lunch for a picnic and headed out. First stop was the beach area, which didn't create much of an adventure so we then went to tube below the dam. We walked up and down the area looking for shells, bobbers, fishing line, hooks, lures and of course crawdads. We enjoyed a picnic lunch and then went back to the beach area where we witnessed the tail- end of a baptism. I soaked up some sun and Madelyn made a few new friends while swimming.




Tuesday, July 17, 2012

She Turned 9 on May Twenty Nine.

Madelyn had three parties to celebrate turning nine! Apparently turning nine is kind of a big deal or she is just well loved. She chose a movie theme for her friend birthday party. She invited all her classemantes and a few other friends to her party. Thankfully her daddy was kind enough to let us use the highschool auditorium for the move night. Once kids arrrive they had cake, she opened presents and then they all quietly intently watched the movie Jack and Jill. Thankfully parents arrived soon after the movie and all but three little girls headed home. The three girls and Madelyn had a slumber party at Ryan's house. I went over the next morning to see the girls off and to help clean up.
Madelyn and I then headed to Council Grove lake where we roughed it camped in my parents air conditioned camper for a couple nights and clebrated her birthday with my family. She then had the Muhlig family birthday party at the Council Grove Pizza Hut. She is a much loved nine year old!